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Contrary to popular self-help wisdom, some achievements are so profound that they actually do have the power to completely change your life and create inflection points worth leaning into shamelessly.

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The Reasoning

The 'enjoy the process, outcomes don't matter' philosophy becomes limiting when applied to truly transformative goals. Some achievements unlock new rooms, relationships, and capabilities that compound into life changes. The key is distinguishing between ego-driven goals and genuinely impactful ones.

What Needs to Be True

  • The achievement represents years of meaningful work
  • Success opens doors to significantly new opportunities
  • You're willing to give 100% without holding back
  • The goal aligns with creating impact beyond yourself

Counterargument

This thinking can lead to unhealthy attachment to outcomes, burnout from overwork, and depression when big goals fail. Most achievements don't actually change your baseline happiness or life satisfaction.

What Would Change This View

Data showing that people who achieved major goals aren't measurably happier or more fulfilled 5 years later. Evidence that outcome-focused thinking consistently leads to worse mental health than process-focused approaches.

Implications for Builders

Pick 1-2 truly transformative goals per decade rather than many small ones

When you identify a potentially life-changing goal, lean into it fully

Don't apologize for being ambitious about things that matter deeply

Distinguish between achievement for ego vs achievement for impact

Example Application

A startup founder realizes their goal of IPO isn't just about money - it would unlock ability to fund other entrepreneurs, access rooms where policy gets made, and create generational wealth for their team. They stop downplaying this goal as 'just a number' and lean into the full effort required.