My First Million
The best business ideas come from noticing what's working and doing it better, faster, or for a different audience.
“You only need one”
What It Means
In dating, unlike business metrics, you don't need to optimize for volume or conversion rate - you just need to find one compatible person
Why It Matters
Reduces pressure and anxiety about dating 'success rates' and helps focus on quality connections over quantity
When It's True
When looking for serious relationship rather than casual dating, and when you have reasonable standards and approach
When It's Risky
When used to justify not putting in effort or improving your approach, or when standards are completely unrealistic
How to Apply
Focus on genuine connections over match counts
Don't get discouraged by rejection rates
Put full effort into promising connections
Remember that dating is not a numbers optimization problem
Example Scenario
“Someone gets discouraged after 20 unsuccessful dates but remembers they only need to find one person they're truly compatible with, helping them stay positive and continue putting genuine effort into new connections.”
Related Knowledge
Dating is a skill and you can get better at it
Dating success comes from learnable techniques and practice, not just natural ability or luck
The Secretary Problem for Dating
A mathematical framework from optimal stopping theory that determines when to stop searching and commit to a dating partner, based on sampling 37% of your dating pool to establish a benchmark.
Date Like a Scientist
A systematic approach to dating that involves running experiments with different types of partners to discover who actually makes you happy long-term, rather than relying on preconceived notions of your 'type'.
F*ck the Spark Philosophy
A counter-intuitive approach to dating that rejects the requirement for immediate chemistry or 'sparks' and instead focuses on slow-burn connections that develop over time through compatibility and shared experiences.
Create a dating app profile that stands out from 90% of other profiles
Significantly more matches and meaningful conversations, dates with people you're actually compatible with
Become genuinely interesting to talk to on dates through curiosity and engagement
Dates where the other person talks enthusiastically about themselves and wants to see you again