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Develop the ability to read people's true intentions and emotional states

Entrepreneurs, salespeople, negotiators, anyone who needs to understand human psychology

3-6 months of consistent practice

What Success Looks Like

Ability to sense when someone is lying, uncomfortable, confident, or hiding information through behavioral cues

Steps to Execute

1

Practice observing strangers in public spaces (malls, cafes) without being creepy

2

Create mental profiles: were they picked on in high school, are they confident, depressed, etc.

3

Watch for baseline behavior when people are relaxed and truthful

4

Note changes in behavior patterns during stress or deception

5

Trust your gut instincts - the feeling you get in the first 3 seconds of meeting someone

Checklist

Wear sunglasses to avoid looking creepy while people-watching
Focus on eyes, body posture, and genuine vs fake smiles
Create relaxed environments to get authentic reads
Bank behavioral patterns for future reference
Practice on low-stakes interactions first

Inputs Needed

  • Time for consistent observation practice
  • Public spaces with diverse people
  • Willingness to trust instincts over logic
  • Patience to build pattern recognition

Outputs

  • Improved negotiation outcomes
  • Better hiring decisions
  • Enhanced sales conversations
  • Stronger personal relationships

Example

“At a business dinner, you notice the potential investor keeps touching their neck when discussing funding timeline, suggesting discomfort. You pivot the conversation to build more rapport before returning to the ask.”

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